Christmas

[wook77]

Passive aggressive douchebaggery is passive aggressive. I had no idea that getting the preferred name for a character right was just so much of a fucking hardship that one needed to make a point of mentioning that the requested first name is actually the character's middle name. I also had no idea that when someone says "no smut needed", that they were actually asking for a kink they don't like to be prominently featured in a PWP. Consider me enlightened.

Now on to the happy making. Christmas this year was awesome.

Srsly. Best Christmas in years. There were no, zip, zilch, zero, nada, NONE, NON, fights at my house this year. There was no begging my nephews to eat. There was no brother being all snide and condescending and superior. There was no sister-in-law attempting to make me feel inferior or glaring at me for not playing with her boys just as she wants. There was no awkward exchange of gifts. There was no ignoring. There was none of that.

Instead, it was great! We watched the movies we wanted to watch. We ate what and when we wanted. We woke up when we wanted. Dinner was peaceful and relaxing.

Even the gifts rocked this year! I have a history of receiving shitty gifts. But this year, my family really outdid themselves. I sent out a small list of things that I would want. I ended up getting a few video games, some giftcards for iTunes and VISA checkcards. My mum got me THE video game I wanted. My older sister got me THE Cow Parade Cow I wanted. My younger sister got me a video game I'd mentioned I wanted while we were shopping but had forgotten to put on the list (go her memory!). But my dad, the horrible gift giver extraordinaire, totally got me the best gift this year.

I have a new bedmate. The Tauntaun Sleeping Bag from thinkgeek. *spazzes*



That would be my shih tsu taking a nap with the tauntaun.

How did Christmas go for all of you?

Feliz Navidad, flist!

Comments

[the_rainbow_jen]

Heh, I saw this a while back when they were still working on the licensing agreement to make these. Thought it was great then, it's awesome now.

My best was oddly a Doctor Who DVD from my brother. Who generally doesn't get high marks for good gifts, but this year was excellent. It was The Next Doctor, which was a fun episode, by my squee comes from the fact that the DVD also has DOCTOR WHO AT THE PROMS. Which is so awesome and has me very tickled indeed.

Also, am in Tucson if you want/have time to meet for a drink or something. Merry Christmas!

[mrasaki.livejournal.com]

Okay, so now I'm curious. You can't just say stuff like that w/o saying who and where! (I sorta have an idea, would like confirmation?)

And I'm glad you're having an awesome Xmas! Happy Holidays!

[waxbean.livejournal.com]

I am so glad that your family behaved themselves this year and that, consequently, your Xmas was awesome.

xoxoxoxoM

[chaeldub.livejournal.com]

*tosses mistletoe in your general direction and tackles*

I saw that Tauntaun sleeping bag a while ago and it it totes made of teh win.

Question. Do they really smell as bad on the inside?

*grin*

[nolagal.livejournal.com]

Best sleeping bag ever.

[star98hope.livejournal.com]

um, I think that may be the best present ever. you lucky girl! :P glad you had such a good holiday.

[wook77.livejournal.com]

Oh man, srsly, best gift ever.

Ooooh! Looks like we both scored!

Definitely would love to meet. I have bridge2sickbay tomorrow until about 6 but I'd love to meet you after that? I'll text you, unless you've changed cell numbers!

[wook77.livejournal.com]

It's fairly obvious but if you want to email me, I'll tell you about it :D

And <3<3<3 I hope yours is happy making as well!

[wook77.livejournal.com]

Also also - Sherlock Holmes. I have next Saturday off. If we do not end up hanging with my brother and his family to do Christmas Duex, I'd love to go see it with you!

[wook77.livejournal.com]

*is tackled happily!*

HEY YOU!

And oh man, all the heat, none of the stink, bb!

<3<3<3 HAPPY CHRISTMAS!

[wook77.livejournal.com]

Inorite? It is very comfy and warm, too. The head of the tauntaun is the softest pillow evah.

[wook77.livejournal.com]

It really is! My dad finally scored!

Definitely had a good one! I hope yours was most excellent, as well!

[the_rainbow_jen]

Cool! Same cell, just let me know where and when. Look forward to it!

[dream-wia-dream.livejournal.com]

Sounds like you had a great Christmas. And I am SOOO jealous of the Tauntaun sleeping bag! Yay! You can pretend like Han stuffed you inside to keep you nice and warm when it's snowy outside. :D

[waxbean.livejournal.com]

yes yes yes yes yes! just give me a heads up. that should be very doable. xoxoM

[firefrorefiddle.livejournal.com]

...I appreciate the stab at a sheen (http://archiveofourown.org/comments/5508) of politeness?

I was under the impression that your request meant you wanted Billy to call Dignam Bryce during the fic. It took me a while to figure out how to make that happen, as a sub calling his dom by their first name seemed strange to me. I'm entirely new to writing D/s, but I figured as a middle name it might work as a title. And my betas thought it worked.

I'd never read fic for this movie before getting your request--though now that reveal is over I'm going over to fangirl revelininsanity's "Running in Sand" series right now--so I didn't really have an opinion about Dignam's name. But I could tell that this mattered to you, so I put in effort to include it.

Also, we've never spoken, so I don't know how I was expected to know that you aren't fond of D/s in a PWP fic, since you didn't mention it in your "Dear Author" letter. (I was under the impression PWPs are specifically sexual, by the way? How would this story qualify?)

I spent a lot of time trying to get the psychological feel right, the mood, putting in all the little references to the movie, etc. I'm not sorry for writing this fic, and actually I think it's one of the best things I've ever done. But I am sorry that your enjoyment of it has apparently been ruined.

In an effort to be assertive, rather than passive aggressive, I'm cross-posting this to the above-linked post on your blog, to make sure you see it. And I will be making an entry about this on my own blog (http://quinfirefrorefiddle.dreamwidth.org/tag/yuletide). Just letting you know, I wouldn't want to you find that out accidentally. Thank you for commenting.

[wook77.livejournal.com]

Since you're here wanking about my lackluster response to your fic -

My request - RequestDetail2: I'd love a missing scene from the movie. Angry confrontations, surprising softness, any of it. Also, I'm on the side that says that Dignam's first name is Bryce, not Sean.

Where does this give you the impression that I only wanted Dignam to use Bryce in it and that it was clear that it would be acceptable to include an offhand line that it was his middle name? That felt quite like a passive aggressive dig towards my request. You put an extra effort into including an offhand line that emphasized that you were not willing to use Bryce as his first name.

The request just states that Dignam's first name is Bryce. That's it. It could've been Queenan calling Dignam 'Bryce'. It could've been his mother. There is nowhere in my request that states that Costigan must call Dignam 'Bryce'.

And if you weren't certain of a kink to include, why would you not contact the moderators and request clarification rather than just writing it? D/s appeals to certain people and is a squick to others. D/s is definitely a kink that you check on, IMHO. It's definitely a squick to me.

In addition, you chose to write a fic that clearly could not adhere to my request as far as you could figure (as you state above) and yet you chose to write it anyway.

You got the characters so that's all you're required to do for Yuletide. Shine on.

[firefrorefiddle.livejournal.com]

Okay, the name thing is changed. Sorry, I thought the "name" part was more important than the "first" part, clearly I read that wrong.

Since you had squicks listed in your author letter, I didn't think it was necessary to contact you through a mod to check for other squicks, but I guess I'll just have to chalk that one up to it being my first Yuletide and remember it for next year.

Anyways, Happy New Year!

[wook77.livejournal.com]

Change it, don't change it. The fic was obviously written for your enjoyment, not for mine.

And just so that I'm clear on your above logic about the inclusion of D/s - because I didn't list needleplay, bloodplay or knifeplay as squicks, those would've been all right for inclusion? Because I didn't list scat as a squick, that would've been all right for inclusion?

I take the opposite approach to exchange fics. If they don't specifically list a kink, especially a kink that only appeals to certain audiences, I don't include it. I find it's easier to write a fic that won't upset your recipient that way but to each their own. In the end, it's your fic, not mine.

Write what you want. Each reader is allowed to enjoy or not enjoy to their heart's content.

[firefrorefiddle.livejournal.com]

Except that it was written for your enjoyment. I was genuinely trying to write something you'd like. I'm sorry that I missed the mark. I'm not here to wank- I can see how that's an easy conclusion to reach, fandom tends to be very wanky- but really I'm here because I wanted to straighten this out, as much as is possible.

I do have a list of kinks I would also do that with- though I don't tend to write kink, this was an experiment- and if I'd thought about going into any kind of BDSM for example, or if the fic had been sexual in nature, then yeah, I would have asked through a mod. I can see how your approach would end up in fewer messes like this one, though. Most of the exchanges I've participated in have been pure fluff, so this seems to be a learning curve thing.

I appreciate the time you've taken to talk this out. Thanks.

[wook77.livejournal.com]

You could've fooled me on both the enjoyment and the wank factors.

So just so that I understand you - you would ask about a kink and/or not write a kink that your recipient might not like including any kind of BDSM? You do realize what the "D" in BDSM means, correct? The "D" is D/s - the same kink that you did not ask about.

IMHO and YMMV, "kink" does not have to be graphic sex. A kink is getting off on something and there are plenty of people who get off on even thinking of someone living in a D/s relationship regardless of the physical relationships. Even if it isn't sexually explicit writing, it's still a kink to the recipient.

I don't know what there is to straighten out or talk out here. Shine on.

[abigail89.livejournal.com]

OMG! I LOVE IT!